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Using Everyday Objects for Self-Defense

In a world where danger can appear unexpectedly, being resourceful can make all the difference. While formal martial arts training is invaluable, you may not always have time to get into a fighting stance—or even empty hands. That’s where everyday objects come in. From pens to purses, the tools we carry or see daily can be turned into improvised self-defense weapons if we train our minds to recognize them as such.

Here’s a breakdown of how common objects can help you protect yourself and what to consider when using them.

Pens—especially metal ones—can function as makeshift kubotan (a small self-defense tool). Held firmly in your fist with the point protruding, they can be used to strike sensitive areas like the throat or eyes. Keys can also be used in similar fashion, though gripping them between your fingers like “Wolverine claws” isn’t recommended due to the risk of injuring your own hand. Instead, hold a single key firmly and stab or jab with it in a hammer-fist motion. Carry your pen in an accessible shirt or pants pocket, not buried deep in a bag.

 A heavy purse or backpack becomes a powerful flail when swung. If you can create space, use your bag to generate momentum and hit an attacker in the face, knees, or hands. If you carry a bag with a long strap, you can also use it to momentarily entangle or off-balance someone, giving you time to escape. Mentally note the heaviest items in your bag and keep them toward the bottom—closer to the striking end if you need to swing.

Compact flashlights—especially tactical ones made of metal—serve a dual purpose. You can blind someone momentarily with a bright beam and then follow up with strikes using the hard body of the flashlight. Look for flashlights with a ridged or scalloped bezel; they not only enhance striking power but also can be used to mark an attacker with visible injuries for later identification by the authorities.

A belt can be used to create distance, entangle limbs, or as a striking tool. Think of it as a flexible extension of your arm. With practice, you can use it to whip at an attacker’s face or to entrap a limb briefly.  Wider leather belts with solid buckles have the most defensive utility.

In many indoor settings, chairs and stools are your allies. You can use them as shields, push them toward your attacker to create space, or even use them to trip or obstruct their path. If you’re seated and someone approaches aggressively, don’t get up—use the chair to jam into their legs or shove into their midsection.

Water bottles, coffee thermoses, or canned drinks can be thrown to create distraction or used for blunt impact. Even a hot cup of coffee in the face can buy you time to escape. When throwing an object, aim for the face to disrupt vision and balance.

Improvised self-defense is less about the object and more about your mindset. Being situationally aware and willing to act decisively can turn almost anything into a tool for survival. That said, these objects should be used only as needed to stop a threat and allow escape. They are not substitutes for consistent training, nor should they embolden reckless behavior. Preparation is peace of mind. Practice spotting potential defensive tools around you at home, work, or on the go. Train your brain to see beyond the obvious—and never underestimate the power of everyday objects in the hands of someone ready to defend themselves.

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Protecting Your Peace: The Importance of Staying Away from Negative People

In a world where our time, energy, and emotional bandwidth are limited, protecting your peace is not a luxury — it’s a necessity. One of the most overlooked ways to maintain emotional and mental well-being is by setting strong boundaries with negative people.

Whether it’s the chronic complainer, the critic who never has anything good to say, or the person who always sees the downside of everything, negative people can be a quiet but powerful drain on your spirit. You may not even realize it until you’ve left the conversation feeling exhausted, discouraged, or just… off.

Negativity is contagious. Science backs this up. Studies have shown that emotions are contagious — we tend to mimic the moods of those around us. Spend enough time with pessimistic or toxic people, and their mindset starts to creep into your own thinking. What once felt like possibility becomes doubt. What once inspired you now feels like a burden. Their outlook begins to color your worldview. That’s not being weak — that’s being human.

You don’t owe everyone your energy.  Here’s a truth many of us struggle to accept: Just because someone is a coworker, family member, or long-time friend doesn’t mean they are entitled to constant access to your mind and heart. You can still care for people without giving them power over your mood or decisions. Learning to say, “I can’t be around this energy right now,” is a skill worth developing. You’re not judging people — you’re protecting yourself. If you’re working on bettering your life — building a business, improving your health, becoming more disciplined, deepening your relationships — negativity can stunt that growth like shade blocks a plant from the sun. Positive change requires clarity, consistency, and confidence — all things that get eroded when you’re surrounded by people who scoff at your goals or constantly focus on what’s wrong with the world.

Creating space from negative influences isn’t about burning bridges; it’s about putting up boundaries. That might mean limiting time with certain people, steering conversations away from toxic topics, or simply not engaging when someone starts to spiral. You don’t have to announce your boundaries loudly. Let your actions speak. Distance, silence, and disengagement are powerful tools when used with intention. Seek out people who inspire you, challenge you to be better, and cheer for your wins. Surround yourself with those who believe in possibility, take responsibility for their lives, and radiate the kind of energy you want more of in your own.

Positive people don’t ignore problems — they just don’t get stuck in them. You only get one life. Don’t waste it stuck in conversations that go nowhere, or relationships that weigh you down. Stay away from negative people not out of spite, but out of love — for yourself, your dreams, and your peace. Protect your energy. Guard your mindset. And choose your company like your future depends on it — because it does.